Harvest Life Gracefully, watching this video will give you a better understanding of childhood sexual abuse. It describe exactly what a child feels, and why it is so difficult for them to tell.
The speaker in this video is a survivor of sexual abuse and does a very good job in telling what a child goes through. I recommend this video to anyone that knows of a survivor or has experience child hood sexual abuse. Very Helpful! I recommend these books for help and support.
Excellent reading.
Showing posts with label child abuse - sexual abuse. Show all posts
Showing posts with label child abuse - sexual abuse. Show all posts
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Havest Life Greacefully- Tips on Healing-Sexual Abuse, Rape, and Incest – Comfort through Creativity (Ezine Ready)
Harvest Life Gracefully sharing some tips on how to heal from sexual abuse
Trauma from sexual abuse, rape, and incest does not have to result in devastating life-long problems. One of the very best tools to a victorious life, rather than remaining a victim, is to give your pain and anger a voice. One’s “voice” does not necessarily assume speaking. Allowing one’s inner child to speak refers to finding some creative outlet to tell one’s abuse story. Through creative self-expression one will find comfort from the entanglement of an abusive past.Sexual Abuse, Rape, and Incest – Comfort through Creativity
Author: Donna Eder
Trauma from sexual abuse, rape, and incest does not have to result in devastating life-long problems. One of the very best tools to a victorious life, rather than remaining a victim, is to give your pain and anger a voice. One’s “voice” does not necessarily assume speaking. Allowing one’s inner child to speak refers to finding some creative outlet to tell one’s abuse story. Through creative self-expression one will find comfort from the entanglement of an abusive past. A creative voice can take on many forms. The form may be drawing, painting, writing (poetry, an article, essay, script, or book), creating a video, composing a song, journaling, dancing, or some other form to externally express one’s internal sexual abuse, rape, and incest issues. A creative voice allows the confusion, pain, and shame, a release from its inner bondage. The first (and only) step to beginning to give oneself a voice through creativity is to foster safety. One must be in (or find) a safe, non-threatening, calm, and safe space within and around oneself. In this safety one ensures no other pain will penetrate or be accumulated. This is critical. Expressing one’s voice necessitates appreciated vulnerability. One’s safe place is to be nurtured above all else. Everyone deserves dignity, respect, kindness, and validation, not to be further victimized. A safe place will ensure esteemed disclosure, albeit not guaranteeing understanding. There is no one right way or wrong way to “working” a creative outlet. However, it is an essential component to healing. Comfort is kindled through creating an end product that shares what has been silenced. One’s creations do not have to make sense to others. They are purposed as tools to express one’s pain. If they work for you then they work. They tell the story that could not be told in a verbal way, at that time. They don’t even have to make sense to oneself. Their purpose is to let go of the shame and silence that sexual abuse, rape, and incest have, for too long, held one captive. Sense cannot be made of the nonsensical. One’s creations are neither good nor bad. One does not need talent, propensity, quality, or quantity. The only ingredient is a silenced voice that requires emancipation. Through sharing one’s creative voice with oneself (and perhaps some other trusted person or persons), one’s seclusion, pain, and shame begin becoming unbound. The creative process for self-healing is not time-stamped. It is neither ever finished nor always constant. It grows and changes as one grows and heals. The one known variable is that giving a voice to the victim within, promotes comfort and healing. One’s identity, pain, and shame are given two wings to fly away. One’s new voice challenges encased old inner voices and tapes. There may be a time when what one hears from themselves is too alarming and overwhelming. Be patient and kind to honor oneself in the disclosure process. It may be that one will need to set aside her creative voice in order to pick it up at a later time. Even this is partly curative. Nothing cures sexual abuse, rape, and incest remnants in one’s life. How one responds to them will determine how healthy and functional one’s life becomes. Creatively voicing oneself is an effective and important method to communicate one’s lost inner child. Disclosure through a creative outlet will birth the comfort one seeks in order to be able to move on. To break free from remaining a victim of sexual exploitation, creatively claim your voice. Ó 2009 Donna Eder
About the AuthorDonna Eder is a published author and internationally juried artist. Her passions are compassion, teaching, and creativity. She has a Master of Arts from Columbia University, NY.
Trauma from sexual abuse, rape, and incest does not have to result in devastating life-long problems. One of the very best tools to a victorious life, rather than remaining a victim, is to give your pain and anger a voice. One’s “voice” does not necessarily assume speaking. Allowing one’s inner child to speak refers to finding some creative outlet to tell one’s abuse story. Through creative self-expression one will find comfort from the entanglement of an abusive past.Sexual Abuse, Rape, and Incest – Comfort through Creativity
Author: Donna Eder
Trauma from sexual abuse, rape, and incest does not have to result in devastating life-long problems. One of the very best tools to a victorious life, rather than remaining a victim, is to give your pain and anger a voice. One’s “voice” does not necessarily assume speaking. Allowing one’s inner child to speak refers to finding some creative outlet to tell one’s abuse story. Through creative self-expression one will find comfort from the entanglement of an abusive past. A creative voice can take on many forms. The form may be drawing, painting, writing (poetry, an article, essay, script, or book), creating a video, composing a song, journaling, dancing, or some other form to externally express one’s internal sexual abuse, rape, and incest issues. A creative voice allows the confusion, pain, and shame, a release from its inner bondage. The first (and only) step to beginning to give oneself a voice through creativity is to foster safety. One must be in (or find) a safe, non-threatening, calm, and safe space within and around oneself. In this safety one ensures no other pain will penetrate or be accumulated. This is critical. Expressing one’s voice necessitates appreciated vulnerability. One’s safe place is to be nurtured above all else. Everyone deserves dignity, respect, kindness, and validation, not to be further victimized. A safe place will ensure esteemed disclosure, albeit not guaranteeing understanding. There is no one right way or wrong way to “working” a creative outlet. However, it is an essential component to healing. Comfort is kindled through creating an end product that shares what has been silenced. One’s creations do not have to make sense to others. They are purposed as tools to express one’s pain. If they work for you then they work. They tell the story that could not be told in a verbal way, at that time. They don’t even have to make sense to oneself. Their purpose is to let go of the shame and silence that sexual abuse, rape, and incest have, for too long, held one captive. Sense cannot be made of the nonsensical. One’s creations are neither good nor bad. One does not need talent, propensity, quality, or quantity. The only ingredient is a silenced voice that requires emancipation. Through sharing one’s creative voice with oneself (and perhaps some other trusted person or persons), one’s seclusion, pain, and shame begin becoming unbound. The creative process for self-healing is not time-stamped. It is neither ever finished nor always constant. It grows and changes as one grows and heals. The one known variable is that giving a voice to the victim within, promotes comfort and healing. One’s identity, pain, and shame are given two wings to fly away. One’s new voice challenges encased old inner voices and tapes. There may be a time when what one hears from themselves is too alarming and overwhelming. Be patient and kind to honor oneself in the disclosure process. It may be that one will need to set aside her creative voice in order to pick it up at a later time. Even this is partly curative. Nothing cures sexual abuse, rape, and incest remnants in one’s life. How one responds to them will determine how healthy and functional one’s life becomes. Creatively voicing oneself is an effective and important method to communicate one’s lost inner child. Disclosure through a creative outlet will birth the comfort one seeks in order to be able to move on. To break free from remaining a victim of sexual exploitation, creatively claim your voice. Ó 2009 Donna Eder
About the AuthorDonna Eder is a published author and internationally juried artist. Her passions are compassion, teaching, and creativity. She has a Master of Arts from Columbia University, NY.
Saturday, April 17, 2010
Harvest Life Gracefully recommend a book to read.
Harvest Life Gracefully recommends reading this book if you had been sexual abuse or know someone that has been sexual abuse. Below is a review from Dennis D. Muhumuza posted today on the Daily Monitor Truth Everyday.
Title: Hush: Moving from Silence to Healing after Childhood Sexual Abuse
Author: Nicole Braddock Bromley
Reviewer: Dennis D. Muhumuza
When she was still a little girl, Nicole Braddock Bromley was sexually abused by her father. Sexual abuse is a global tragedy, with untold victims living in silence for fear of stigmatisation. But it came to a point where Nicole could brook no more. She wanted to help herself and give others the courage to speak out as well. Not only did she break the silence, she topped it with a book, Hush: Moving from Silence to Healing after Childhood Sexual Abuse, in which she stresses that breaking the silence is the first step to healing.
“Silence delays the healing process by perpetuating the hurt, shame and guilt of adult survivors. It imprisons us in a dark closet…it also protects sexual offenders by allowing them to continue to abuse their victims,” she writes. “Telling released me from my past so I could embrace the future.”
Published by WordAlive Publishers, the 181-page book is interspersed with uplifting stories of survivors of abuse who have broken out, forgiven those that hurt them and made a difference. Although counsellors do help, Nicole argues that true healing comes from God. She’s aware that many might not believe God cares by asking questions like, ‘If God loves me, why did this happen?’ She says she was there once and that such questions are normal.
“That said, I also believe that you’ll never find genuine healing outside of a relationship with God,” she notes. “I would be doing you an injustice to tell you that breaking the silence and accepting the truth about your abuse is the end of healing. I’ve heard many speakers say that you should never expect to overcome the pain of sexual abuse. They say that you’ll always feel empty inside because of it…I know from my own experience that knowing God was what quieted my questioning heart and allowed His healing waters to flow in and out of my life…what God has done for me, He is longing to do for you.”
Hush is not at all preachy and is written with a sincerity that emboldens those who are afraid of dealing with an ugly past thrust on them by fate.
Friday, April 16, 2010
Harvest Life Gracefully- Child Abuse Prevention Month time to advocate for our children | The News-Sentinel - Fort Wayne IN
Harvest Life Gracefully by keep in mind that April is child abuse prevention month. We need to be a voice for our children. Usually out of fear our children cannot speak for themselves. We need to do everything possible to end child abuse. Click on the link below and read about some of the behaviors and physical signs of abuse. If you see this in any child, it is your responsibility to take action to protect the child. Call law-enforcement or your child protection agency in your area if you suspect abuse. Harvest life gracefully by doing your part to end child abuse.
Child Abuse Prevention Month time to advocate for our children
| The News-Sentinel - Fort Wayne IN
Child Abuse Prevention Month time to advocate for our children
| The News-Sentinel - Fort Wayne IN
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Harvest Life Gracefully by being informAPA Position on Child Abuse – Part 1 - We Are Adult Survivors of Child Abuse and Neglect -
Harvest Life Gracefully by being inform about what the
American Psychiatric Association’s Position Statement on Child Abuse and Neglect that was approved in May 1991. I found this information on "We are adult survivors of child abuse and neglect" blog. This is only Part 1 and when the other parts are posted, I will also post it on my blog.
APA Position on Child Abuse – Part 1 - We Are Adult Survivors of Child Abuse and Neglect -
American Psychiatric Association’s Position Statement on Child Abuse and Neglect that was approved in May 1991. I found this information on "We are adult survivors of child abuse and neglect" blog. This is only Part 1 and when the other parts are posted, I will also post it on my blog.
APA Position on Child Abuse – Part 1 - We Are Adult Survivors of Child Abuse and Neglect -
Saturday, March 27, 2010
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Harvest Life Gracefully- Sexual abuse strikes four generations
It occur to me today that sexual abuse had strike four generations in my family. Meaning my grandmother, my mother, myself, and my daughter.
I wonder how common that is???
I wonder if there was something about each of us that was similar, that attracted us to being sexual abused???
I wonder if this means that the chances that my granddaughters will be sexual abuse is great?
The cycle of abuse needs to be broken in my family.
Now on a much brighter side, it is time to go and harvest life gracefully!!!!!
I wonder how common that is???
I wonder if there was something about each of us that was similar, that attracted us to being sexual abused???
I wonder if this means that the chances that my granddaughters will be sexual abuse is great?
The cycle of abuse needs to be broken in my family.
Now on a much brighter side, it is time to go and harvest life gracefully!!!!!
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Monday, February 1, 2010
Harvest Life Gracefully- INTRODUCTION
I am an adult survivor of childhood sexual and emotional abuse, to harvest life gracefully had been a slow, long and challenging process. Coping with the belief that I was always counted out as a person, caused me to have no self-worth, dignity, or respect for myself. With having no support system during my childhood, I did not develop skills and tools to make positive choices for my life. The effects of the abuse caused me to choose risky and unhealthy behaviors. It was only until I became sicken by my life from the consequences of poor choices was when I became determine and develop a strong desire to become the best I can be, is when I sought out for help and discovered how to harvest life gracefully and with a purpose.
The purpose of this blog is to bring more awareness to abuse, to take you on my personal journey and share with you my discovery, of how I learned to harvest life gracefully and found my purpose in life. If I can save at least one child from losing their innocence, help one person to harvest life gracefully and find their purpose in life would be a blessing from heaven.
First, before I start blogging about my journey, I think it is important to know a little something about abuse. I feel we need to understand and try to relate to how the effects of abuse can affect a person. Although, I believe that one can not completely understand and relate what a abuse victim must be feeling or what they are going though, as each victim may feel the effect of abuse and express it in different ways.
There are four types of abuse and they are:
1.physical -hitting, kicking, punching
2.sexual -unwanted sexual touch and or sexual intercourse
3.emotional -verbal abuse, insults, degrading remarks, criticism
4.neglect -depriving food, shelter, clothing, health needs
Some of the effects of abuse, which I know from personal experience, is devastating and can be debilitating to the one who has suffer the abuse. This can make it difficult but not impossible to harvest life gracefully. Listed below are some of the general effects:
So what do you say? “ HARVEST LIFE GRACEFULLY!”
Coming soon: In my-upcoming blogs I will share with you tips on how to harvest life, a video about healing from sexual abuse, as well as my story. Check back often to see what is new on my blog.
The purpose of this blog is to bring more awareness to abuse, to take you on my personal journey and share with you my discovery, of how I learned to harvest life gracefully and found my purpose in life. If I can save at least one child from losing their innocence, help one person to harvest life gracefully and find their purpose in life would be a blessing from heaven.
First, before I start blogging about my journey, I think it is important to know a little something about abuse. I feel we need to understand and try to relate to how the effects of abuse can affect a person. Although, I believe that one can not completely understand and relate what a abuse victim must be feeling or what they are going though, as each victim may feel the effect of abuse and express it in different ways.
There are four types of abuse and they are:
1.physical -hitting, kicking, punching
2.sexual -unwanted sexual touch and or sexual intercourse
3.emotional -verbal abuse, insults, degrading remarks, criticism
4.neglect -depriving food, shelter, clothing, health needs
Some of the effects of abuse, which I know from personal experience, is devastating and can be debilitating to the one who has suffer the abuse. This can make it difficult but not impossible to harvest life gracefully. Listed below are some of the general effects:
- speech problems
- eating disorders
- self-destructive behaviors
- developmental lags
- substance abuse
- depression and anxiety
- aggression and bully behaviors
- preoccupation with sex, promiscuous behaviors and prostitution
- criminal behaviors
- suicidal thoughts and suicidal attempts
- truancy or failing in school
- paranoid behaviors
- inability to control emotions, over reacting
- relationship problems, co-dependent, or problems with intimacy
- obsessions
- run away
- questioning religious or spiritual beliefs
- insecurity, safety
- inability to trust others
- sleep disorders
- low-self worth
So what do you say? “ HARVEST LIFE GRACEFULLY!”
Coming soon: In my-upcoming blogs I will share with you tips on how to harvest life, a video about healing from sexual abuse, as well as my story. Check back often to see what is new on my blog.
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