Harvest Life Gracefully: Accepting the Higher Power

Harvest Life Gracefully: Accepting the Higher Power

Accepting the higher power as being greater than yourself is the most important aspect to harvest life gracefully!

Take a minute and ponder upon electricity and gravity can you control them? Would you not say that these natural powers are greater than ourselves because nothing in our own power can change or control them. Interesting enough with understanding this comes acceptance.

When I accepted that electricity and gravity is a power greater than myself, then I was able to gain the concept that their is a spiritual power who is greater than myself and the natural spiritual law. With accepting this I learn to put my faith and trust into this power. By doing so I tapped into something that is strong and useful for my internal and external growth.

Harvest Life Gracefully: Personal Rights

Harvest Life Gracefully: Personal Rights by Jane Jonas

Practicing your personal rights is a wonderful way to harvest life gracefully.

Yesterday when I was cleaning I ran across this sheet of paper which I had hung onto for years. I remember that I had gotten this from my therapist in my early days of learning how to harvest life gracefully. Listed on this paper was our personal rights, after studying the rights for a while, I then realize exercising these rights shows confidence, high esteem and respect for oneself. Often, people who has been abused especially during childhood will think and feel that they have no rights, because of how they had been violated. Today I decided to share these rights to you.

As a person I have the right to:

Be myself
Refuse requests without feeling selfish.
Be competent and be proud of my accomplishments.
Feel and express anger.
Ask for affection and help ( I may be turned down,but I can ask)
Be treated as a capable person.
Be illogical in making decisions.
Make mistakes - and be responsible for them.
Change my mind.
Say "I don't know."
Say "I don't agree."
Say "I don't understand."
Have my opinions given respect.
Have my needs be as important as the needs of others.
Tell someone what my needs are. (They may not choose to do anything about it.)
Take pride in my body and define attractiveness in my own terms.
Grow, learn and change,and value my age and experience.
And sometimes make demands on others.

Harvest Life Gracefully: Comparing

Harvest Life Gracefully- Don't Compare
When we compare our talents against others this is not the way to harvest life gracefully. We are all equally special in our own way. If other people have talents that are different than yours' this does not mean that one is more special or better than the other. It just means that we are different. To harvest life gracefully means that it is our responsibility to develop the talents we have. We need to find the courage to stop comparing ourselves to others and start looking at our own talents because everybody is born with talents that will make your life fulfilling.

Understanding long term effects on students who are being bullied is to harvest life gracefully.

Another way to harvest life gracefully is to understand and educate yourself about the long term effects of being bullied at school. I can understand these effects, base on my own personal expierences. It will cause low self-worth, feeling like a nothing, you will even question why you are alive and be confuse to what your purpose is. It is not unusual to conteplate or even attempt sucide just to escape from the emotional pain. I can't imagine nothing any worse than feeling unloved, unwanted and having no place in this world. These are all thoughts and feelings that I expirenced by being verbally bullied thoughout elementry, middle and high school. I agree with Vickie Britton in her article below, that you can and probably suffer the lasting efects twenty or thirty years later. I have certain triggers that will take my mind back as if it is still happening today. This is not easy for the people I am close to. Beccause they don't always know how to respond. If you get a chance read what I have already posted on my story page in how anxiety sunk in during my high school years and how the anxiety caused even more misery to my life. I hope everyone will take the time to understand and educate themselves on this subject matter. I believe it is also important to understand and educate what causes a bully to be a bully.


The Long-Term Effect on Students Victimized by School Bullies

Apr 10, 2010 Vickie Britton
Students who were bullied in elementary, middle, or high school may suffer lasting effects even twenty or thirty years later.

Most adults have a horror story or two about the school bully. But for some students, the harassment may begin as early as elementary school, escalate during middle school and continue through high school. Years of emotional and physical bullying can cause lasting damage.

Bullying is a form of abuse. One child or a small group may be singled out for harassment, often for little or no reason. Once it becomes a pattern, this form of behavior can spread throughout a classroom or school until a single child or group of "outsiders" is subjected to daily verbal or physical abuse by others.
Types of Bullying Commonly Experienced

For many bullied students, the school years are filled with anxiety and dread. Ex-students recall being singled out for abuse by name-calling, being shunned and ostracized, and even beaten. Students recall being pushed into walls, knocked to the ground, and sustaining cuts and bruises on a daily basis.

Bullying often occurs in contained areas such as school buses or bathrooms. It may also take place in the classroom, school cafeteria, gym locker room, or even in the hallways between classes. Some provide painful testimony of verbal abuse, such as repeated name-calling. Others are jabbed with sharp objects such as pens in the hallway or they're mocked and humiliated in the gym shower or locker room. Many report that teachers and other adults knew what was going on but did nothing to stop the continual bullying.
The Lasting Effects of Bullying

The pain of being bullied in school can be felt years later. Many victims of bullying bear emotional scars that haunt them decades after the abuse has stopped. Many students who had been bullied in middle school or high school report feeling a sense of withdrawal from others, fear of expressing opinions, even fear of closed-in spaces or other places similar to the ones where the bullying occurred. The effects of this trauma are felt for years.

Read more at Suite101: The Long-Term Effect on Students Victimized by School Bullies http://clinical-psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/the-long-term-effect-of-students-victimized-by-school-bullies#ixzz0tVhiVPxV

Learning how to be assertive in an respectful way is to harvest life gracefully

Being assertive in an respectful way is another way one can harvest life gracefully.
I believe it is important to learn to be assertive to reach true happiness,and gain confidence in yourself. Stephen G. wrote the article below about being assertive, and gave some great tricks on how to become assertive. It will take practice and being patience with yourself if you have a problem with being passive and shy. With determination, and faith we can become what we want dream of being.


The secret in how to be more assertive is judging when to assert yourself and having the confidence to do so. If you're not asserting yourself then you're simply not getting the most out of life.


Some over assertive people drive other people away by imposing their thoughts feelings upon others. By reading situations with clarity we can not only stand up for ourselves, we can do so without putting others down.


People who do not assert themselves miss out - Pure and simple! I don't want that for you or for anybody, life is far too short, so to me it makes just too much sense that you should tackle this problem if it is causing you to miss out too.


Think about what I'm about to teach you next as an Assertiveness Training Course and if you learn thoroughly how to improve assertiveness then your reward for passing will be the best thing ever - A better life!




Here is the first step to Becoming More Assertive




Don't Get Angry

Aggression is not assertion, therefore being aggressive is not asserting yourself in fact it is showing a lack of self control.

Asserting yourself requires you to say what and how you feel and put those comments out there without using anger as a tool.

Inner strength is a powerful factor in having an assertive mindset and sometimes being insistent requires us to find strength that we never thought we had. Everyone has amazing inner strength and courage they just have to harness it to overcome shyness.




It's Not As Hard As You May Think

Asserting ourselves is easier than some people may think, some times we only need to give ourselves a little nudge in the right direction.

The real solution to being assertive is to overcome your personal obstacles be they Aggression, Shyness, Laziness, Lack of Judgment or lack of confidence. Each perceived weakness should be tackled individually and this will help you assert yourself on a regular basis.




Know Your Barriers - Work On Them

Once you learn to be bold and insistent you will never feel that feeling in the pit of your stomach that makes you want to scream, shout, cry or just run away. Face your individual barriers one by one.

These are the fundamental elements involved in how to improve assertiveness:

*Control your Aggression

*Overcome shyness

*Get motivated and beat laziness/procrastination

*Improve your social skills

*Building confidence

In becoming more assertive, you need to know these barriers so that you might break them down.



Too Lazy Vs Too Scared

Some people are just too lethargic to stand up for themselves, whilst others are scared and they fear they consequences.


Fear isn't a valid excuse, because if you let fear control you then others will use that fear and you may become a slave to it.


Laziness on the other hand is a whole other thing. If you just can't be bothered then that attitude will carry over into and pervade every area of your life, rendering you incompetent and in the eyes of other an failure.



Beat laziness and get motivated to stand up for what matters to you. That's were a lot of people find their passion - In matters of personal importance.




In conclusion

Take on each barrier to assertion and each strength you develop will in turn assist in other areas. It's synergistic and very fulfilling to improve your life in the areas that hold you back.

While it always takes some effort to change, the benefits are well worth the effort.

Tackling some assertive activities and standing up for yourself is a primary factor in becoming more assertive and getting what YOU want out of life.


Don't spend another minute of your life looking at those people who are assertive and get what they want, because they have the confidence to make their voice heard. Life is too short to be a shrinking violet and have your voice in the shadows.


Get out there and voice your opinions, say what you mean and make yourself heard.

How To be More Assertive By Stephen G

Teaching your child how to cope with anger is to harvest life gracefully

Teaching your child to cope with anger is to harvest life gracefully. Here are some tips from Leah Davies an educator, these tips are geared for teachers in the classroom, I think these tips are also excellent and helpful tips for parents to use in helping your child to cope with anger. I believe, anger is an healthy emotion but if it is not dealt with in a proper and acceptable way it can be very destructive.


Helping Children Cope with Anger
By Leah Davies, M.Ed.

All human beings experience anger. But children, in particular, have difficulty channeling their strong emotions into acceptable outlets. Anger is a response to a real or perceived loss or stress. It results when a person's self-esteem, body, property, values or sense of entitlement are threatened. It is often a reaction to feeling misunderstood, frustrated, hurt, rejected or ashamed.

Children often blame other people or events for their anger instead of assuming responsibility for it. If children do not learn how to release their anger appropriately, it can fester and explode in inappropriate ways or be internalized and damage their sense of self-worth. When children express their anger inappropriately, it may mean that they lack coping skills to deal with their emotions in positive ways.
To assist children in becoming emotionally competent so that they are ready to learn, educators need to help them:

1. Understand their anger and the emotions of others.

2. Develop positive social interaction skills.

3. Realize that they are responsible for the choices they make.

4. Learn how to express anger in ways that aren't harmful to themselves or others.


How can educators do this?

* Model acceptance of each child as a valuable human being worthy of respect.

* Accentuate each child's strengths.

* Make your expectations compatible with children's level of development.

* Provide a safe, responsive, predictable environment.

* Provide children the opportunity to make choices.

* Send honest, congruent messages, making sure your words match your facial expressions and body language.

* Be fair, supportive, firm, and consistent. Never ridicule a child.

* Watch for and acknowledge appropriate behavior.

* Teach decision making and problem-solving skills.

* Use role-playing, puppets, or videos to teach social skills. For example, how to treat each other or how to work out disagreements.

* Involve children in making rules such as:

o We are kind to each other

o We listen to others

o We use self-control

o We work out differences peacefully.

* Make the rules clear and follow through with meaningful consequences which are appropriate for the age of the child.

* Be aware of nonverbal signs that a child is angry such as a red face, tensed muscles, or clenched fists.

* Understand that a child's headaches, upset stomach, or withdrawn behavior may be a symptom of repressed anger.

* Watch the child carefully, noting the antecedents to aggressive behavior. Ask yourself:

o What happened right before the outburst?

o How was the child feeling?

o What does he or she need/want?

o What can I do to make the situation better for the child?

* Anticipate angry outbursts and arrange activities to reduce them. For example, if the child gets angry when it is time to go inside, talk with the child ahead of time and share your expectations. Then comment when the child acts appropriately.

* Arrange the seating to decrease conflict. Separate children who arouse angry responses in each other.

* Help children understand that anger is a natural emotion that everyone has. Say things like, "It's okay to feel angry. Everyone feels angry sometimes, but it is not okay to hurt yourself or others."

* Stop any aggressive behaviors. Say, "I can't let you hurt each other," or "I can't let you hurt me." Then remove the child or children as gently as possible.

* If the child is out-of-control, provide a quiet place where he/she can calm down.

* Resist taking a child's angry outburst personally. Deal with the child in a calm, matter-of-fact way.

* Acknowledge strong emotions, helping the child control him/herself and save face. For example say, "It must be hard to get a low score after you tried so hard."

* Assist the child in using a vocabulary of feeling words. Read books that ask the children to verbalize a time when they felt various emotions.

* Use feeling words to help the child understand the emotions of others. For example, "Mary is sitting alone and looks very sad; she may be lonely," or "When Joe tripped, he looked embarrassed."

* Help children understand their own emotions by putting their feelings into words. For example say, "It made you angry when they called you names."

* Listen, reflect and validate without judgment the feelings the child expresses. After listening, help the child identify the true feeling underlying the anger such as hurt, sadness, disappointment, fear, or frustration. For example, "That hurt when your best friend was mean to you," or "It was scary to have them gang up on you."

* Encourage the child to accept responsibility for the anger and to gain control over him/herself by asking him/herself the following:

o Did I do or say anything to create the problem?
If so, how can I make things better?
How can I keep this from happening again?

* Facilitate communication and problem solving with the child or between children by asking questions such as:

o What do you want/need?

o How can I help you?

o What can you do to help yourself?

* Help children understand that they can choose how to react when they feel angry. Teach them self-control and positive ways to cope with their negative impulses. The following are choices they can make:

o Stop and think

o Calm self by breathing deeply

o Count slowly

o Tense body and relax

o Find a quiet place or sit alone

o Write about feelings

o Tell someone how you feel

o Problem solve

o Look at books or read

o Draw or play with clay

o Exercise, walk or run

o Play music or sing

o Rest or take a shower

o Hug someone, a pet or a stuffed animal

* Stress that the children must accept responsibility for their actions. Reinforce any constructive steps.

* Establish an open, caring relationship with other adults who care about the child, so that jointly you can help the angry child meet his/her psychological needs of being accepted, secure, and recognized as a valuable human being.

* Help the parent or guardian understand that giving in to a child's outburst or exposing him/her to verbal or physical violence can be detrimental to a child's growth and development. If needed, provide parenting information or suggest a parenting class.

* If the problem is beyond your scope of expertise, seek additional assistance and/or recommend professional help.

* Lastly, find healthy outlets for your own strong emotions, so that you will be open to the needs of the children with whom you work.

Harvest Life Gracefully with learning and having fun with your children during summer month

Harvest Life Gracefully,with having fun with your children during the summer months. Summer can be both a fun and learning expiernce for you and your children. This article that I am posting will give you ideals and ways that you can incoperate learning and having fun.

Using Fun To Teach Your Children
By: nlwest21 | Posted: Jun 30, 2010


The summer is the best time of year that every kid enjoys. They don't have to keep up with homework, getting to class on time, and waking up while it is still dark outside. It is a time where they can enjoy the fresh air and to relax with their friends. With all of this going on they will often forget a good deal of information that they learned during the school year.

One way that you have the ability to help them is to provide a way that they can keep learning during the summer months. The challenging part is trying to do this without them actually catching on to what you are trying to do.

Road Trip
The easiest way for most kids to learn and remember what fun facts is to make it fun. When attempting to refreshen their minds on U.S. history why not take them to someplace historical in your area and make a vacation out of it. There are numerous fun places you are able to take them too including, Gettysburg, St. Augustine, The Alamo, and a whole lot more.

Art
Art might not be the most essential subject - but it can still assist them to work on their imaginative juices. Have them make something using seashells that they have collected. Take them out on walks around the park and have them collect plants, flowers, and leaves and place them in a scrapbook.

Not all art is something that has to be drawn or painted. Pick out a random painting or picture or have them compose a short story, poem, or riddle. Give them the name of the painting and thirty minutes to create something of their own. This is a great way for them to utilize their imagination and decide on what they think the picture is talking about. You might be amazed by their ingenuity.

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Learn new ways to Teach Kids Facts to kids and keep them sharp during the summer. Have them create paintings and Funny Riddles that they can be proud of.

Harvest Life Gracefully take control of your destiny by making your own choices

Dreaming, choices, and decisions is all part of Harvest Life Gracefully to attain life success. Reading this article by Gary Eby will give you a clear understanding how choices and making decisions affect your life successes. The ideal is to motivate oneself, to take control of your own life, live the life you always dreamed about by making your own choices, then take full responsibility for your own actions. You can attain success if you take full control of your life. Life is taking risks and then to learn from failures. Failures are not a sign to give up. Do you recall hearing this statement? "If you first don't succeed, try and try again." Lets Harvest Life Gracefully and start taking control of our own life.



Let Your Destiny Manifest Itself To Attain Life Success
by: Gary Eby

What drives you? What is it that defines your entire persona? What are you living for?

Unfortunately, most people have are way ward of the very purpose they exist. Can you remember those days of your youthful exuberance when you undoubtedly believe you can achieve anything? Filled with unfathomable enthusiasm and driven with a determined resolution.

Sadly for most those days are long gone, they are the ghost of their former selves. Battered and beaten by the ravages of stress from work, society and life itself. So many haven’t dreamed in for so long that they actually don’t know what they want any longer! Don’t you think it’s time to stir up that dream inside of you? Your dreams and your destiny are not determined by “CHANCE” but by “CHOICE” It is solely your Decision.

The life you have now is the result in direct correlation to the Choices you’ve made in the past. But, sometimes you are hindered and stuck in mediocrity because you were afraid to make a sound Decision. You are just flowing along the stream that forces of nature roll you along. The kind of cavalier “Que Sera Sera” attitude is not only inexplicable it’s repulsive and inexcusable. Isn’t it time you got involved with your own life? Isn’t it time to start living through your own Decisions and take responsibility for your actions, be it the Choices you make in your life.

It’s your life, live it the way you see fit. It is a concept so simple yet people indignantly miss it therefore missing out how prolific it really is!

I believe that you can attain anything in life if you act on it and persevere to achieve it regardless the hindrances looming over. It’s your Decision, it is your Choice!

Quoting from Lewis Carrol’s Alice in Wonderland… Alice asked the cat, “Would you please tell me, which way I ought to go from here?” The cat answered, “That depends a great deal on where you are heading to.” Alice exclaimed, “Oh, I don’t much care.” “Then it really doesn’t matter which way you go, the cat remarked poignantly.

What are you trying to accomplish with your life? What do you want to attain? It’s your Choice, you are in direct control. Take responsibility for your actions and refrain from blaming others for your failures! Make a sound judgment for your Decisions, start by getting serious and get going! Life goes on, with or without you!

Here is an inspiring quote by Eleanor Roosevelt, “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” Never let anybody steal your dream or vision!

You need to make a Decision! Don’t go on through life idly staving away when there is boatload of opportunity in front of you. It is much easier to make a course correction that it is to get started! It takes careful planning and solid preparation with corrections on the side. But before they can do that they had to make a Decision to take off first.

How do you process a Decision?

It is vitally important to grasps all the concepts. Never make 100% assumptions while only having 10% facts. It is illogical and impractical, you need to consider various solutions and objectively evaluate their consequences. Weighing the best and worst case scenarios, and then make sure that the Decision is congruent with your Goals, Plans and Mission statement. Lastly you must always effectively convey your judgment to your support team.

An ideal support team would be your family members, close friends, relatives who are helping out your cause, refrain from consulting with those who are dragging down.

Remember you are the architect of your life. You must be willing and able to make Choices. Your destiny is determined by Choice not by chance!



About The Author

Gary Eby, a member of the Jim Rohn Speaker Bureau, is gifted to teach deep truths in a clear and easily understandable style. His messages are power-packed and often filled with laughter and practical illustrations. He has shared the stage with great speakers such as Jim Rohn and Les Brown. Not only is Gary a sought after speaker, but he is also an author whose personal development book Lefthanded Soldiers has received worldwide attention. You may receive a free copy at http://cli.gs/garyeby


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To stand by people whenever in need is to Harvest Life Gracefully

In this life people all over the world need support from others.We all need people to stand by us, to harvest life gracefully is to stand by people in need. Watch this musical video as people all around the world are singing the song "Stand bybe Me" I found it to be very moving.



Playing For Change: Song Around the World "Stand By Me" - The most amazing videos are a click away