Harvest Life Gracefully a healing tip from abuse
Survivors typically experience feelings of terror and being overwhelmed. Many experience flashbacks. I find that guided meditation and having a breath prayer helps to reduce anxiety and to center individuals suffering from trauma.
Breath Prayer And Guided Meditation Help Abuse Survivors
Author: Judy Brutz
Survivors typically experience feelings of terror and being overwhelmed. Many experience flashbacks. I find that guided meditation and having a breath prayer helps to reduce anxiety and to center individuals suffering from trauma.
Find a safe place where you are able to pray and experience a guided meditation. Prompts for the guided meditation are included below.
1. Imagine that Jesus or a Holy Presence, who conveys love, acceptance, comfort, and welcome, is by your side. Breathe in the sacredness. It's all right if you do not sense the presence of the sacred. Breathe in and out slowly, noticing how you breath feels. Rest. Allow yourself to relax.
2. Quietly, softly, you are asked, "What is it you want?" You know this is a spiritual question and you consider what your greatest need is. What do you say?
3. You are asked, "What name for God do you prefer to use?" You answer. What name do you say?
4. Take the name and the phrase and play with them, trying different sequencing of words until there is an easy rhythm and your Breath Prayer resonates with you. Notice how the prayer flows with your breathing.
5. Write down your prayer. Place reminders, post-its, in many places, bathroom mirror, a dot on your watch. Make it a practice to say your prayer as you go through doorways, or when you look at the time, or when you go to your computer, or when you pick up your keys. What makes sense for you?
6. Here are examples of Breath Prayers that my hospice patients formed. "God be with me always." "Bless me, Lord." "Jesus, heal me."
To heal and be transformed, seek the help you need from spirituality, social workers, and other sources. You do not need to be alone, or trapped by the trauma you experienced.
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/religion-articles/breath-prayer-and-guided-meditation-help-abuse-survivors-2191593.html
Showing posts with label Self-respect. Show all posts
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Harvest Life Gracefully-Learn the Difference between "self-esteem" and "self-respect"
There is a significant difference between self-esteem and self-respect. Self-respect is extremely important and is the result of a mindset that is grateful and humble and is focused on the interest and caring of others. Self-esteem, where there has been much praise and thinking highly of one's self, can prove to be disasterous to oneself and to others.
What is Self-respect and How Does it Relate to Self-esteem?
Author: Mark Arens
The terms "self-esteem" and "self-respect" may seem at first glance very similar, if not exactly the same. But they are indeed very different things and have very different consequences, especially when cultivated at a young age.
Psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors and other experts for years have encouraged parents and teachers to cultivate self-esteem in kids. About thirty years ago, it became very popular among child experts to tout self-esteem as the solution to all our children's problems. We've heard it a million times—high self-esteem is good, low self-esteem is bad. But what does this really mean and what effect does it have in the long term?
Self-esteem means simply thinking highly of one's self. Many parents, teachers and psychologists feel that by showering a child with praise, he or she will grow up with a positive attitude and confidence. But often self-esteem that is left unchecked can develop into destructive behavior: thinking less of others, ungratefulness, arrogance, cockiness. The pursuit of self-esteem can become, as described by family psychologist and parenting expert John Rosemond, "an excuse to do your own thing—regardless of whether or not the "thing" in question is anti-social—and quickly mutate[s] into self-worship."
Self-respect, on the other hand, is a mindset that allows us to become grateful, humble and well adjusted. Self-respect encompasses respect not just of ourselves, but also of others. In fact, by respecting our fellow humans we can learn to respect ourselves more. When we have self-respect, we love ourselves but do not become arrogant or cocky. As Rosemond puts it, "A person growing in self-respect understands that he is an imperfect being who was given the gift of life in order to serve."
Self-respect is akin to the Golden Rule: in order to receive respect and learn to respect ourselves, we must learn to give respect to others. And while having confidence is not a bad thing, people who are over-confident (and who are often seen as arrogant) haven't learned this principle—that in order to get respect from others and from ourselves, we must first learn to give.
Self-respect is gained "not by being told how wonderful you are," Rosemond writes. "But by developing respect for others."
As you've probably experienced, people who have grown up being told how great they are usually aren't very fun to be around and don't make very good friends. But people who have been taught to take an interest in and care about others while maintaining a positive attitude about themselves tend to be the type of interesting people with whom we enjoy spending time.
By encouraging our children's individuality and growth by teaching them to be confident yet humble and respectful, we can help them become adults who have healthy, stable relationships and friendships, and respect for themselves and others.
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/self-improvement-articles/what-is-selfrespect-and-how-does-it-relate-to-selfesteem-610730.html
About the AuthorHelp your children to gain self respect by taking one step at a time. One way to accomplish this is to help your child set goals.
What is Self-respect and How Does it Relate to Self-esteem?
Author: Mark Arens
The terms "self-esteem" and "self-respect" may seem at first glance very similar, if not exactly the same. But they are indeed very different things and have very different consequences, especially when cultivated at a young age.
Psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors and other experts for years have encouraged parents and teachers to cultivate self-esteem in kids. About thirty years ago, it became very popular among child experts to tout self-esteem as the solution to all our children's problems. We've heard it a million times—high self-esteem is good, low self-esteem is bad. But what does this really mean and what effect does it have in the long term?
Self-esteem means simply thinking highly of one's self. Many parents, teachers and psychologists feel that by showering a child with praise, he or she will grow up with a positive attitude and confidence. But often self-esteem that is left unchecked can develop into destructive behavior: thinking less of others, ungratefulness, arrogance, cockiness. The pursuit of self-esteem can become, as described by family psychologist and parenting expert John Rosemond, "an excuse to do your own thing—regardless of whether or not the "thing" in question is anti-social—and quickly mutate[s] into self-worship."
Self-respect, on the other hand, is a mindset that allows us to become grateful, humble and well adjusted. Self-respect encompasses respect not just of ourselves, but also of others. In fact, by respecting our fellow humans we can learn to respect ourselves more. When we have self-respect, we love ourselves but do not become arrogant or cocky. As Rosemond puts it, "A person growing in self-respect understands that he is an imperfect being who was given the gift of life in order to serve."
Self-respect is akin to the Golden Rule: in order to receive respect and learn to respect ourselves, we must learn to give respect to others. And while having confidence is not a bad thing, people who are over-confident (and who are often seen as arrogant) haven't learned this principle—that in order to get respect from others and from ourselves, we must first learn to give.
Self-respect is gained "not by being told how wonderful you are," Rosemond writes. "But by developing respect for others."
As you've probably experienced, people who have grown up being told how great they are usually aren't very fun to be around and don't make very good friends. But people who have been taught to take an interest in and care about others while maintaining a positive attitude about themselves tend to be the type of interesting people with whom we enjoy spending time.
By encouraging our children's individuality and growth by teaching them to be confident yet humble and respectful, we can help them become adults who have healthy, stable relationships and friendships, and respect for themselves and others.
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/self-improvement-articles/what-is-selfrespect-and-how-does-it-relate-to-selfesteem-610730.html
About the AuthorHelp your children to gain self respect by taking one step at a time. One way to accomplish this is to help your child set goals.
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