Harvest Life Gracefully by getting tips on how to deal with tantrums

Harvest Life Gracefully, learn how to deal with your child's tantrums.

Tantrums are a part of every family. We have seen them from our own children or from a friends. Here are some ideas that may help you next when your child decides to throw one.

Break Your Toddlers Tantrum Cycle

Author: sue rees

I'm sure that many of us have come across a child having a tantrum. Either our own, a grandchild or a friends. In all these cases something may have triggered it.
Frustration, tiredness, anger, hunger, discomfort, to manipulate parents into buying them something and to seek attention. Understand your child and what sets him/her off and you will be able to manage the event better.
Described as equal to having a blown fuse. They can be displayed by screaming, kicking, bursts of yelling, head bashing and throwing themselves on the floor. They sometimes show signs of destruction and can hurt themselves badly if not watched.
Tantrums most often occur during ages 1-3 years (hence the terrible 2's). But have been known to happen in some four year olds. I have witnessed this in teenagers also.
They show expressions of frustration, which occur most frequently when children's language skills are not fully matured and they cannot express themselves clearly.
As children develop they want to make decisions on their own but have trouble conveying themselves properly.
Some ideas that may help to manage a tantrum episode are ….
To stop them from having a tantrum in the middle of the supermarket is ignore the event. Walk away from the situation, walk into another isle, keeping a close eye on him/her at all times. As soon as he/she realises that they are alone he/she will stop crying and start looking for you. You need to comfort them, get down onto your knees and have eye contact with him/her, speak calmly without yelling. All children want to be spoken to lovingly and directly, doesn't matter what age. Yelling will only make matters worse, so stay calm, you are the adult here. Teach children how to act and behave in a manner that is acceptable.
Another way to handle a tantrum is to change the focus by diverting their attention to something else. “Hey, look at that bird at the window.” By moving their thoughts into another direction will calm the situation.
Don't reward the tantrum by giving in to his/her demands. If he/she wants a biscuit before dinner and you have already said no, don't reward their behaviour by letting them have one just so they will cease the action. Do this and you are teaching them that if they act this way they will get what they want from you or a caregiver.
It is not bad parenting when a child has a tantrum, it is a part of their progress. Children will eventually grow out of this stage in his/her life. They will learn to communicate better and understand language. Situations will become less frustrating, he/she will learn to understand more and this will help them to assess any problem and deal with it maturely.
　
　
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About the AuthorSue Rees, I have studied Child Psychology and certificates in Children's Service's, worked with children for many years. Have a daughter of my own and eight nieces and nephews.
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