Harvest Life Gracefully by forgiving your parents for their own trials and errors. When we look back at how our parents raised us, there are so many of us who had expectations of what our parents should or should not have done. These expectations can cause us to have bitterness and anger directed towards them. We have the tendency to forget that they are human beings trying to survive in this world with the skills and tools which they had learned. Some has better skills, others don't it all depends on what was taught and learned. We are products from our own learning experiences. I found the article below that will give you food for thought on this subject manner.
Parenting Tips on the Ability to Forgive and Reconcile
By Kim Siang Ng
Do not let children grow up thinking it is okay to be bitter or angry with their parents or worse, hate their parents. As parent, you do not plant the seeds of bitterness or anger in the mind of your children by pouring your bitterness or unhappiness onto your children. Instead show your children the greatness of togetherness by taking them to visit their grandparents or have meals together on a regular basis. Single parent is more prone to affect the young mind of their children by telling them events or incidents committed by the other parent that had hurt the single parent's feelings. Problems or issues between the parents are best kept amongst themselves and not turn to their children. It is not fair for either of the parents to expect their children to take side or sympathize with either of them.
As children, we were taught to love, respect and be filial to our parents. We are required to respect our parents from time immemorial just simply because they are our parents! Take note that we are not taught to respect "good", "perfect", "wonderful", "nice", "great" or "fantastic" parents. No human is perfect in this world and our parents are just ordinary human beings, so they do make mistakes and errors in their life.
It saddens me to see that the relationship between parents and children can turn so terribly wrong sometimes. Whatever that had happened in the past, there must be something that the children can be grateful for. What about the parental care given to the children while they were still infants? At the minimum, any parent would have invested money and considerable efforts in bringing up their children and provide their children with certain levels of education to make their children what they are today. Furthermore, these children were well taken care of to become a healthy adult today. Even if our parents had failed us miserably in the past, just treat them as they are today and forgive them for their past.
The children must not let the anger blinds their eyes so much that they failed to see the kindness that they have received from their parents. They must not be so ungrateful that they took things for granted. There is no point in keeping negative memories of the past. One cannot keep all these negative emotions bottled up and remain unforgiving forever.
During their twilight years, the parents welcome their children's presence and company more than anything else. A visit by their children will bring them warmth and comfort to their hearts and tears of joy. No matter what had happened in the past, choose forgiveness and reconciliation rather than animosity.
Ng Kim Siang
He is a Systems Analyst by profession and has spent a large part of his career managing large technology projects in the Banking industry. He holds a Master in Business Administration from the University of Bath UK and is currently pursuing a Diploma on Pre-School Educator Course. Visit his website now to discover more... http://www.TipsToEnrichYourLife.com/parenting
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